Overcoming loss in a positive way
We have recently finished our teaching series called Transformed and one of the areas we looked at was being transformed by loss.
And one of the things that was mentioned was that we all face loss at some point of time. It is one of those things that we can't avoid, but we can actually come through a season of loss in a positive and healthy way.
Firstly, we need to acknowledge the loss. Too often we can try to push down the hurt and pain that comes with a loss as a coping mechanism. We think that if we just ignore the loss, if we keep busy and going on with life that everything will be ok. That might help us in the early stages but in the long run this type of thinking is unhealthy. Acknowledging the loss helps us move to the next stage of positive loss transformation.
And that is grief. Any loss, whether it's the passing of a loved one, a change in our employment or even an absence of freedom like we have experienced through this global pandemic, brings with it an element of grief. Some losses are easier to cope with than others, and as such their level of grief may be lower, but it's important to remember that all loss comes with grief. It is essential that when you suffer a loss that you take the necessary time you need to grieve that loss. Don't try and be strong, toughing it out because that's what you think other people expect. Allow yourself space to remember, to reflect, and to shed tears as needed. There is no right way to grieve, it is different for every person who has suffered a loss, so just as God has created you uniquely in HIs image, so too will your grief be unique to you.
Sadly, many people get stuck in the grief stage. They are so overcome with their loss that they can't move on. Yet if we are to come out the other side of loss in a positive and healthy way, we must get to the stage where we move forward with our lives. That doesn't mean we forget about the loss, it doesn't mean we don't love the person who passed away or anything like that, because they will always be with us. It simply means that we are making a choice to move on, to go forward with God, knowing that He still has plans and purposes for us.
So if you have suffered a loss recently, know that you can get through it. Jesus is doing this journey with you and He promises to bring you out the other side stronger and healthier than before. As we read in Psalm 34:18, "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted;
he rescues those whose spirits are crushed."